1 Jn.4:16 – So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.
God’s very nature is love. His love is not an idea or a belief, it is tangible. His love can be experienced and it is the experiencing of His love that radically changes our lives. Problems often arise when a person begins to hear about the love of God who has no relationship with the Lord themselves. Their only frame of reference is the different loves they may have experienced in life. Failed relationships and personal disappointments can become a major block for someone to actually receive God’s love. A failed marriage, a betrayal in a friendship, or a bad relationship with parents can destroy our perception of the love of God. Here is a quote from David Jeremiah about this.
“Those who have suffered from common abuses of love are often skeptical of love from any source, including God. If your heart is broken romantically, you face the danger of concluding that all love, including God’s, is just as unstable. If you have a troubled relationship with your human father, you might conclude that your heavenly Father is just as unreliable. These mistaken ideas about God can be devastating, but they are not uncommon. We cannot afford to make broad judgments about love or God from our limited personal experiences. Nor can we look to pop culture as any kind of authority—songs or sitcoms or soaps or cinema. We might as well get our idea of the beach from a child’s sandbox. Better to go to the ultimate authority on both God and love. The Bible must be our guide.”
So how exactly can one overcome these love disappointments that have left us scarred and disillusioned with life? There is really only one way, you must taste and see the love of God for yourself. You must put yourself in a position for His love to begin to break in to your life. Read the gospels (I love the book of John). Go to church. Find a church that focuses on worship and the preaching and teaching of God’s Word. Get involved with people who love the Lord. If you do these things you are obviously hungry and are being prepared by the Lord for a major change in your life. His love is breaking through and your world is about to be majorly changed